Out to a higher standard?

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What fellow blogger, Alex, experienced is one of the reasons why I've decided not to come out to my parents. It would be a very convenient excuse for them to blame on homosexuality for all my perceived undesirable attitude and behaviour in the past and in the future. There would be pressure for me to maintain a standard that is likely to be higher than your average heterosexual person, which would be grossly unfair.

Even worse is my fear that they may take this further by excusing their bad behaviour and ignore any admonishment from me and waved it as some gay distorted views. It would be so easy for them to continue to be irresponsible since whatever I say then would fall on deaf ears and maybe even ignore my siblings' advice by assuming that they have been influenced by their gay brother.

If this happens, it would be dangerous. It has very real consequences on me and my siblings, at least on the financial side. No, it's not that we depend on them. It is the other way around. All these years we have been struggling to get the concept of budgeting and spending within one's means across to my mum and as far as we can tell, she hasn't grasped it. My dad's not helping by offering little resistance to her perpetual request to expand beyond the budget. Many things have happened to vary the intensity of these actions but that's what it is in a nutshell. This is only financial effect. You can certainly draw your own conclusion the effect on our relationship. Hint: certainly would not be rosy.

Can you imagine what would happen if I come out to them? As Alex's parents have demonstrated clearly: irrationality can rein in and all hell can break loose.

Comments

MrBunnyBan said…
Aiyo. Well, go easy on them. Most parents can't listen to their children's advice. Hope you have a lot of rich siblings. :P
June 13, 2009 at 9:39 PM
Jaded Jeremy said…
Ban,
Been easy on them for years already lah. No, we are not rich.
June 14, 2009 at 12:36 AM
Zhixiang said…
definitely tough. i was lucky. my mom was accepting.
June 16, 2009 at 10:24 AM
Jaded Jeremy said…
Zhixiang,
That's good!
June 16, 2009 at 12:55 PM
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