First cousin
Until recently, only one cousin knew I am gay, via her mother whom I had given prior permission to do so. Few days ago, I personally came out to a cousin over late breakfast.
Before that, I noticed something on Facebook that made my sister and I considered that cousin to be potentially gay-friendly. I was a little nervous. My strategy was to first talk about that particular Facebook content and casually mentioned that it seems another cousin (whom I suspect and almost sure that she's also gay-friendly) is gay friendly, besides my sister and I. I was wondering whether she was too. She affirmed that and in fact she has a few good friends who are gay.
What surprised me was the near non-existent reaction she had when I came out. She was like "I'm ok with that" and went on picking up conversation from where we left off, which was mainly about her family and trips overseas. At first, I was a little apprehensive that maybe she was uncomfortable and so wanted to talk about something else (something that Ban later brought up) but then later she did happily talk about her gay friends.
On hindsight, as my sister mentioned, I should have asked her why she wasn't surprised. Perhaps she knew all along? Still, even then, I would have expected questions like whether I have a partner or not, living with him etc. Unless...she knew all of these beforehand???
Before that, I noticed something on Facebook that made my sister and I considered that cousin to be potentially gay-friendly. I was a little nervous. My strategy was to first talk about that particular Facebook content and casually mentioned that it seems another cousin (whom I suspect and almost sure that she's also gay-friendly) is gay friendly, besides my sister and I. I was wondering whether she was too. She affirmed that and in fact she has a few good friends who are gay.
What surprised me was the near non-existent reaction she had when I came out. She was like "I'm ok with that" and went on picking up conversation from where we left off, which was mainly about her family and trips overseas. At first, I was a little apprehensive that maybe she was uncomfortable and so wanted to talk about something else (something that Ban later brought up) but then later she did happily talk about her gay friends.
On hindsight, as my sister mentioned, I should have asked her why she wasn't surprised. Perhaps she knew all along? Still, even then, I would have expected questions like whether I have a partner or not, living with him etc. Unless...she knew all of these beforehand???
Comments
I'm sorry about what happened to you. I hope things get better for you in future.